CALL 911 IN EMERGENCY
24 hour National Domestic Violence hotline: 800-799-SAFE (7233)
24 hour San Diego Hot Line: DV-Links
Listen, Learn, Raise Awearness and Speak Out!
Nicole Sinkule was a murder victim of domestic violence. She was beaten to death with a hammer in her sleep by her boyfriend who had a history of abusing her. Nicole's life and death continues to be a lesson to those of us that find ourselves in abusive relationships. Abusers will not stop, they will not change. Abuse is physical, mental and sexual. Abuse is not biased to gender, race, class or sexual orientation.
See the video below:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z25bYGTHspo
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The list below can't guarantee your safety, but could help make you safer and have more control.
1.Quit Lying to Yourself- Admit it to yourself and someone you trust. It is what it is and it is abusive and you know it.
2.Educate Yourself- Get the facts, know the Signs.
3.Watch for Red Flags- That bad behavior that is about to erupt.
4.Get Back Control- Make little but good choices and the good choices
5.Make a safety Exit Plan- for yourself and children.
6.Make Copies of Important Papers- keep them w/you.
7.Know Where Your Phone Is- This could be your lifeline.
8.Have an extra set of keys- car keys and houses keys – hidden or w/ a trusted friend.
9. Be Careful when using the internet... you can be traced that way.
10.Seek Help- call 911 in an emergency.
11.Go to a Safe Place- Do Not Be Alone
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SIGNS THAT YOUR ABUSER IS NOT CHANGING : WRC, OCEANSIDE, CA
- He/she minimizes the abuse or denies how serious it really was.
- He/she continues to blame others for his/her behavior.
- He/she claims that you're the one who is abusive.
- He/she pressures you to go to couple's counseling.
- He/she tells you that you owe him another chance.
- You have to push him/her to stay in treatment.
- He/she says the he/she can't change unless you stay with him/her and support him/her.
- He/she tries to get sympathy from you, you children, or yur family and friends.
- He/she expects something from you in exchange for getting help.
- He/she poressures yu to make decisions about the relationship.
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